Biggest Lessons of 2019

2019 has been ONE. HELLUVA. RIDE. Seriously... it has been an epic-ass roller coaster ride. I've experienced the highest of highs, the lowest of lows, and many in-betweens. 2019 was the year the Universe was like..." Enough with the BS, Khristyne. It's time to be aware of your wounds and heal these layers. How do you expect to live your highest potential and still hold on to these old programs?" And so the Universe proceeded my healing process with difficult experiences that triggered so much pain. I was experiencing the dark night of the soul majority of the time. As I reflect on 2019... I was in the chrysalis stages of my spiritual evolution. I was undergoing a transformation that had to happen in order to level up to new heights of consciousness. I was forever dying and being reborn. (Layers of shedding & old parts of me dying. New aspects of me being activated).

Here are two destructive & detrimental layers of programming that

needed clearing & healing:

Nice Person Syndrome: is an exaggerated role adopted during childhood as a means of getting approval and affection. Nice People are carefully trained to be good boys and girls at all costs. They’re steeped too soon and heavily in the values of unselfishness, cooperation, and pleasing others
People Pleaser: The intense need to please and care for people in fear of being rejected or not receiving love and affection, putting other people first before their needs, and such.

* PS: I'm going to share this in the second person point of view. (Like I'm talking to myself)

Lesson # 1: You are not for everyone

Khristyne, why do you need everybody and they mama to like you? Truth is... Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to perceive you the way you perceive yourself. Not everyone has the intention to change their perception about you, no matter how much you try to be a good person to them. AND THAT'S COMPLETELY OKAY. Do not force a relationship that wasn't meant to be long-term. Remember... how others think about you is none of your business. This definitely stems from your childhood and being bullied. This issue is also stemmed by your people pleaser tendencies.

You can also view this from an even higher perspective (Soul Perspective) :

There were agreements and contracts that took place before coming down to Earth. There were souls that volunteered to cross paths with you to help you grow. In order to help you spiritually grow, they were to come into your (human) life and trigger you to surface up anything that needed to be healed.

I know... I know... they don't teach you this at school nor did your parents even know about this. But, trust that when you've completed this lifetime... you will understand that everyone that was put in your path was divinely purposed to help you grow in ways you wouldn't have done on your own.

Lesson #2: Stop entertaining belief systems that don’t align

to your truth -- It's not your truth

This stems from your empathic abilities. There are ways to position your empathic abilities as a strength. You are so good at really listening and feeling people when they tell their stories... that you forget that it ain't even your story! I am reminding you to not identify other peoples stories as your own story. Just because it is true for them, does not mean it is true for you. Also, another reminder to center yourself back to your truth and clear out anything that doesn't ring true to your soul.

For example: "Business is slow," says someone frequently.

Master the awareness when you hear stories that don't resonate with you.
Be especially aware when you hear it repeatedly.
Do not accidentally fall into the trap of making this story true by participating in it.

* Be aware of the keywords bold and italicized *

Lesson #3: Surround yourself with people that genuinely wants to

see you grow and succeed

You are doing yourself a disservice by surrounding yourself with un-likeminded people that doesn't even believe in themselves. As best said by Emmie Evolving, "The light of your shine. The gravity of your glow... makes them realize they haven't been living up to their own potentiality. They believe in you and your ability more than they believe in themselves." It is not your job to change the way they think. It is not your job to convince others of why your ideas/visions are worthy. There is a vibrational dissonance and that is okay. Simply shift your surroundings to those that are in vibrational alignment.

When you surround yourself with people that understand and embody the energy of abundance (or whatever ideal vibrational base you'd like to vibrate in), it feels good. It feels light and in the flow. All parties tap into the magickal energies of amplifying manifestations into existence. Together, yall cultivate a magickal driving force to make your intentions come to life. This is why it is so incredibly important to be mindful of who you allow in your space.

You've experienced the major contrast between hanging out with people that have big visions and people that still exist in the matrix mindset. It's time to make decisions that are in alignment to your highest good. No more dimming your light to make people feel comfortable. We are setting high standards moving forward!

Lesson #4: Setting healthy boundaries is a part of the spiritual journey and is encouraged to be practiced frequently. It’s a form of self-love

Self-love is respecting yourself enough to place healthy boundaries. Stop feeling so bad for having to place boundaries. In order to maintain a healthy, vital energetic field, people must respect your boundaries. It's nothing personal at all. It's for the sake of your soul as you do not want to be drained or get infiltrated with low energies/vibrations.

You'll see the true colors of those that are upset with the boundaries you've placed.

Lesson #5: Does it resonate with my soul?

This is a significant question to ask yourself in all of life. Now more than ever is the time to cultivate a strong relationship with your higher self. You have a divine internal guidance system within you that is here to serve you in your lifetime on Earth. To help you navigate you to your aligned purpose. Ask yourself, "Does it resonate with my soul?" and move where it feels light. Refrain from moving to a space that's contracted and heavy.

For example: You were given an opportunity to vend at a market.

Center yourself and tune into the opportunity. "Will this opportunity bring more for me?"

If it feels heavy, NO, it will not be worth it. If it feels light, YES, it is a great opportunity.

Lesson #7: Know the difference between getting drained + healing a wound

Getting Drained

This year has been a huge awakening on a whole other level of awareness you are just learning. Take self-inventory after connecting with a person. How did their presence make you feel? Do you feel empowered or do you feel drained/contracted? Do you feel heavy or do you feel light? If you were feeling light before you saw them, then all of a sudden you feel tired or your energies dropped... there's your answer! Take great notice of the topic of what the conversation had entail.

It's so very important to fill yourself back up. Meditate, smudge, take a bath, shower light into your being, are all ways that usually helps you nurture and fill your light back up.

Healing a Wound

You know you are undergoing a healing/clearing after being triggered by a situation or person. It is when emotions/energies/thought forms begin to bubble up. It comes up from the deep trenches of the soul to be illuminated after being suppressed and buried in darkness. There's always something to learn through your wounds. Remember that through this pain comes strength. You evolve as you allow yourself to go through the process. Let yourself feel these emotions so it can move through you.

In Conclusion

Master the ability to discern. This applies to all aspects in your life, not just in this lesson.

Lesson #8: If it don't feel right. It don't feel right!

You have a tendency to neglect & discount your intuition. You always get into denial even when a red flag shows up. 3+ red flags show up and you are still here giving a person/situation the benefit of the doubt. Stop making excuses of shit that doesn't serve you and disregarding what your intuition keeps nudging you with.

This stems from your Nice Person Syndrome. You are such a nice person that you will oversee a red flag and find the silver lining aka giving them the benefit of the doubt. You are such a nice person that you also always feel bad and guilty for things like saying no or participating in a conversation. This is a very unbalanced and unaligned approach to living life. We are taking back our power and revving up our self-empowerment. We are worthy. We are deserving.

Lesson #9: Deflect other peoples projections

I realized that this is the lesson that kept replaying in so many different experiences for you all 2019! As an empath, you can truly feel the feelings of other people. It'd be so easy for you to slip from your own truth, as you are so good at putting yourself in the other persons shoes. You do this thing where you allow other peoples truths sway you from your own truth. Especially when the other person project their truths with so much conviction. Which then leads you to question yourself, "Maybe I am wrong, and they're right," downgrading yourself. When you do that... you give away your power to the other person. STAND IN YOUR POWER. STAND IN YOUR TRUTH. It's okay to listen to other people's truths and not have to agree. Discern when people are projecting their truth on to you. Be aware if you are participating in their story that is in misalignment to your truth. We must not be blinded by other peoples projections and stay clear in our truth. This is why awareness is so key.

Lesson #10: Move your body!

Let's harmonize our mind, body, and spirit. There's copious amounts of light frequencies beaming down on Earth. In order to make the ascension process a little easeful, our bodies must be in good condition so that we can integrate the light frequencies as we move into our light bodies. Dancing always helps break up any stagnant energies. If you want a quick way to shift & uplift your energies, bump up your favorite music and start shaking/dancing!

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